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Healing Hurting Hearts Lesson #9
Lesson 9 – FORGIVENESS
AS KIDS ARRIVE PRIOR TO THE LESSON (10 minutes) ACTIVITY
Forgiving is not forgetting. Children hesitate to forgive because
they believe it means condoning the other person’s behaviours.
In reality, to forgive is to say,” I did not like or appreciate
your words or actions, but I am willing to let it go because it
does not help me to hold onto these feelings.” Practice writing
a letter stating what caused the upset and how he or she feels about
it. Then have your child write a compassion statement or one of
forgiveness to the offender and to him- or herself. Keep this paper
until the end of the class
• Chairs enough for all the children except one.
• Music or a drum.
• Print out musical lyrics.
• Print off Visual Aids, crayons for children to colour before
• Water cooler.
• Print the chapter 9 of the ‘And Puppy’ book
one for each child .
1. GAMES: (10 minutes)
MUSICAL CHAIRS: Children can gather in a circle inside
a circle of chairs and while the music is playing, or the drum is
drumming, the children will slowly walk around the circle, "over
and over again" until the music stops. There will be one chair
less than the number of children. When everyone quickly find a seat
as the music stops, one child will be left without a chair to sit
on. THAT child will say, I FORGIVE YOU, and will sit outside the
circle of chairs. Play as long as time allows.
2. TEAM GAMES: (10 minutes)
One person, designated "the stoplight,"
faces away from the rest of the group. The group lines up as far
as they can get from the stoplight. When the stoplight yells "Forgiveness"
all participants can move forward. As they move they say, "I
forgive you" This will help the stoplight hear
when participants get closer. The stoplight can turn around and
yell, "Stop!" at anytime to stop the
movement forward anyone who moves forward once the command to Stop
has been issued has to start again. ‘The spotlight’
then turn away from the group again, saying, "Forgiveness."
The first player to touch the stoplight is told "You
They then get to be the next stoplight.
Optional: Play the Forgiveness video.
3. ACTIVE PRAISE CHORUS (10 minutes)
Forgiveness song (Use Video and lyrics)
My God is so big (Use Video and lyrics)
4. INTIMATE WORSHIP (5 minutes)
This is my Desire (Use Video and lyrics)
We will continue with the story of Joseph and his brothers. I'm
sure you remember the story about how Joseph's brothers beat him
up, threw him in a pit, and sold him to some merchants who were
on their way to Egypt.
b. Learn a Bible Verse (5minutes)
And he kissed all his brothers and wept over them. Afterward his
brothers talked with him. Genesis 45:15 (Use
Bible Verse Visual Aid)
c. Teach the Lesson (15 minutes)
This lesson is about a family reunion. Have you ever been to a family
reunion? A reunion is a wonderful time seeing aunts, uncles, and
cousins that you haven't seen for a long time. If you haven't seen
them in a long time, it may be hard to recognize some of them. There
is always plenty to eat and lots of hugs and kisses at reunions.
When Joseph arrived in Egypt, a lot of things happened to him --
some good -- and some not so good. Remember he ended up in jail,
lets carry on with the story, using the GOOD and BAD signs
The head jailer took a liking to Joseph and placed him in charge
of all the other prisoners. (Good)
Joseph used his God-given gift to interpret the dreams of the other
Joseph was stuck in jail for more than two years. (Bad)
Pharaoh heard that Joseph had the ability to understand dreams.
Pharaoh released Joseph from jail to explain his dreams. (Good)
Pharaoh believed what Joseph told him and put him in charge of the
entire land of Egypt. (Good)
Now, let's see what happens next.
Just as Joseph had told Pharaoh, the dream he was having meant that
there would be seven years when the harvest would be great and there
would be plenty of food. Then there would be seven years when there
would be nothing. God was telling Pharaoh to set aside grain during
the good years so that there would be plenty of food during the
bad years. That is exactly what Pharaoh did. When the bad years
came, there was plenty grain in Egypt, but all the countries around
them were starving.
People came from all the surrounding countries to buy grain from
Joseph, because the whole world was in need of food. Some of those
people were Joseph's very own brothers. When his brothers came,
Joseph recognized them, but they did not know who he was. After
all, it had been many years since they had seen him, and they probably
didn't expect to see him in such a position of power.
Joseph met with his brothers several times without telling them
who he was.
Optional: View ‘Joseph Forgives’
Finally, he could keep it to himself no longer. He told his brothers,
"I am Joseph! Is my father alive?" But his brothers were
speechless because they were afraid. But Joseph said, "Come
closer. I am your brother, the one you sold! Don't worry, and don't
be angry at yourselves for selling me into slavery. You see, it
wasn't you who sent me here. God has put me here to save people
"Now, go and tell my father all about the high position I hold
in Egypt, tell him everything you've seen here, but don't take all
day--hurry up and get my father down here."
Fluctuations were God’s method of teaching Joseph to sustain
hope. He uses the same method to teach us the same, so that we shall
know how to sustain hope even in the most hopeless situations.
Unless we see the big picture of what God is doing through the
difficulties of life, the suffering, the pain, the injustices of
life, we will miss the profound and foundational truth that God
is using all of it for our ultimate good and His glory.
Optional: View Joseph - Reunited with his brothers
Caribbean Story 'And Puppy': Chapter 9 Being
6. APPLICATION / ENCOUNTERING GOD
Optional: Listen to ‘The Healing has begun’
Optional: Listen to ‘Broken Bridges’
Optional: Watch ‘I want a heart that forgives’
Have the child bring up the letter they wrote at the beginning
of the lesson rip the letter up into the garbage, signifying the
release of forgiveness. Take the bin outside at the end and burn
it. As the child says “Today I choose to forgive”
Heavenly Father, there are so many lessons to be learned from the
story of Joseph. It shows us how you love and care for us even when
times are difficult. It shows us that we should be loving and forgiving
even when we have been treated badly. Help us to apply those lessons
to our daily life. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
By the end of this lesson the children should be able to:
• See Joseph as their role model Genesis 45 1- 28
• Understand why it’s important to forgive
• They should have started to forgive people who have hurt
TAKE HOME PAGE ‘Take Home Activity Book’.
‘Take Home Bible Verse Track’. Chapter 9 of book
NEXT WEEK Joseph starts to rebuild his life.