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Where is the Holy Spirit Series - Lesson #14

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This English Stonecroft 'Youth Discipleship Teaching' has been adapted from the Adult Stonecroft Trinity Series.

The English Stonecroft Trinity Series - Where is the Holy Spirit? is available online from Stonecroft's corporate website.


Get 11 Juniors to colour the SELF CONTROLLED banners and the Bible Verse Cards prior to the lesson.

Welcome, as the Junior Youth arrive get them to colour the colouring pages and visual aids that will be used during the session.

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This week we’re going to learn about "Self Control”

1. JUNIOR YOUTH GAMES: (10 minutes)
Sleeping Lions Game

In this game, all of the Juniors (except one hunter ) lie down on the floor pretending to sleep. Once they are settled, they are not allowed to move. The hunter walk through the room and tries to make the sleeping lions move by making them laugh. The hunter is not allowed to touch the lions. Once the lions have moved, they get up and join the hunter.

2. JUNIOR YOUTH TEAM GAMES: (10 minutes)
Giggle Game
To play the Giggle Game, separate the group into two teams. Name one child from each group as “SELF CONTROLLED.” The other children in the team can do anything they want to make this person laugh, except touch them. Once the child laughs, another child takes a turn being SELF CONTROLLED” until all the players have had a chance. The last team to finish is the winner, because they had more self control.

After the game talk about self-control. Explain that it is usually okay to laugh, but there are times when we shouldn’t laugh. Like when someone is hurt or sad, during quiet time at school or church, if you are somewhere and you have been asked to be quiet.



3. ACTIVE PRAISE CHORUS (10 minutes)

Optional: Download ‘Self Control' music, video and lyrics.

4. INTIMATE WORSHIP (5 minutes)

Optional:Download '‘Let us be self controlled' worship music video and lyrics

Optional: Download Give me self control’ play and sing using key board and guitar music sheets and lyrical visual aids.

a. “Back Track” Review

Optional: Download ‘Fruit of the Spirit' review music video, using lyrical visual aids

a. Weekly Bible Verse Readings Review- SESSION #13

While at home you would have read the Bible verses and written your comments to share in this session did you memorize one verse per day? Here are a few questions to test if you fully understood the readings.

1 •  Proverbs 15:1-2

Who can share when they spoke gently to someone and it prevented an argument from developing?


2 •  Titus 3:1-2

(How are we to be when dealing with other people?)

......(We are not to speak evil of anyone, we are to be peaceable , gentle , showing all humility to all men.)


3 •  James 3:13-18

(How does the wisdom that is from above tell us to behave?)

.......( To be pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy)


4 •  Colossians 3:12-14

(How are God's chosen people told to clothe yourselves?

....(With compassion, kindness, humility,  gentleness and patience.    Bearing with each other and forgiving one another)


5 •  Psalm 18:31-36

(What does God's gentleness make you?)



6 •  Galatians 6:1-5

(How does the Bible tell us to treat a brother that has fallen in sin?)

........(We are told to restore such a one in a spirit of  gentleness )


•  Ephesians 4:1-6

(You are told to walk worthy of your with all lowliness and gentleness , with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, 3 endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. )

.....(What does this look like?)

b. Junior Youth Sword Play

Ready…Swords up… 1 Peter 5: 8… CHARGE!

“Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

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b. Youth Bible Memory Verse

“Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

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c. Teach the Lesson (15 minutes)

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When we are full of the Holy Spirit, it is easier to use self-control.

Remember you will never be tempted beyond what God will help you handle.

13  No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

1 Corinthians 10:13

Questions for discussion:
• Who does the Bible say is like a lion? (The devil)
• Could you win in a fight against a real lion? (No)
• Who could help you fight a lion and how? (The Holy Spirit gives us self control)
• Why do you need to be alert? (Because the devil prowls around looking for someone to devour.)

So how can you beat Satan when he is acting like a lion? (Ask God to help you - pray)

“Dear God, I am having trouble controlling my tongue. I say unkind things without thinking. Please help me to be full of Your Holy Spirit so I think before I speak. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.”

Lions that stalk their prey need to use self-control. If lions charged their prey before waiting for the right moment, they would make a noise and the prey would have time to get away. Even though they are close enough to attack and they may be very hungry, they must use self-control and wait until exactly the right time to pounce To be good hunters they need a combination of self-control and patience.

Bible Story:
Jesus fights temptation

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Read Luke 4:1-13

1 Then Jesus, being filled with the Holy Spirit, returned from the Jordan and was led by the Spirit into the wilderness, 2  being tempted for forty days by the devil. And in those days He ate nothing, and afterward, when they had ended, He was hungry.

3  And the devil said to Him, "If You are the Son of God, command this stone to become bread."

4  But Jesus answered him, saying, "It is written, 'Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.' "

5  Then the devil, taking Him up on a high mountain, showed Him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time. 6  And the devil said to Him, "All this authority I will give You, and their glory; for this has been delivered to me, and I give it to whomever I wish. 7  Therefore, if You will worship before me, all will be Yours."

8  And Jesus answered and said to him, "Get behind Me, Satan! For it is written, 'You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.' "

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9  Then he brought Him to Jerusalem, set Him on the pinnacle of the temple, and said to Him, "If You are the Son of God, throw Yourself down from here. 10  For it is written:

'He shall give His angels charge over you,
To keep you,'
11  and, 'In their hands they shall bear you up,
Lest you dash your foot against a stone.' "

12  And Jesus answered and said to him, "It has been said, 'You shall not tempt the Lord your God.' "

13  Now when the devil had ended every temptation, he departed from Him until an opportune time.

Key concepts: The Bible says Satan tempted Jesus for forty days. During this time, Jesus did not eat. Satan tempted Jesus with food, power and the opportunity to show off His power and to honour Himself instead of God. When Satan tempted Jesus, Jesus used Bible verses to tell Satan why He wasn’t going to do what he asked Him to do. Jesus was full of the Holy Spirit, which means God helped him be self-controlled. It is the same for you and I. If we try to fight Satan and temptation on our own, it is difficult, and perhaps impossible. If we ask God to fill us with His Holy Spirit to help us fight Satan we can be strong and victorious like Jesus.

Questions for discussion
1. Have you ever been really hungry? (Share)
2. How badly did you want to eat? (Share)
3. Can you imagine how hungry Jesus must have been after not eating for 40 days?
4. Jesus had all the power in the world and Satan tempted him to show it off, but Jesus didn’t. How did Jesus resist temptation? (He used the Word of God against Satan)
5. Discuss the ‘No self control’ posters.

When we do not use self-control, we end up “biting and devouring” each other, and “provoking and envying” each other. This is not God’s plan for our lives. He would rather see us encouraging and building one another up. Give everyone a ‘Self Control Badge’ to pin on their clothes.

Encourage your children to bring their lion pictures and to clasp their hands together tightly and pray. “Heavenly Father you know that self-control doesn’t come easily to me. Please forgive me for the times I have said and done things rashly. Please remind me to consider self-control as “God-control” – not trying to control myself with human effort, but rather depending on You to fill me with the Holy Spirit so I can be self-controlled. Holy Spirit make that supernatural change in me. Give me the fruit of Your Spirit, especially self-control Amen”.



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Weekly Bible Verse Readings -SESSION #14

Read the Bible verses given below and write out the verse which you consider to be the most important in each reading. Try to memorize a Bible Verse each day come back next session ready to recall the Memory Verse.

Self-control  relates to the passions (such as anger or love), the appetites (for food, sex, etc.), and the will (as illustrated by impulsive decisions). The lack of self-control is a mark of a fool. He is like  a city . . . left without walls , that is, with no means of defense against enemies.

1 •  Proverbs 25:28

28 Like a city whose walls are broken through
     is a person who lacks self-control.


2 •  Titus 1:6-9

  6 An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe[ b ] and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient.   7 Since an overseer manages God's household, he must be blameless-not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain.   8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.   9 He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.


3 •  Psalm 141:3-4

3 Set a guard over my mouth,  Lord ;
     keep watch over the door of my lips.
4 Do not let my heart be drawn to what is evil
     so that I take part in wicked deeds
along with those who are evildoers;


4 •  James 1:19-20

19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,   20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.   21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.


5 •  1 Corinthians 9:24-27

24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? 

Run in such a way as to get the prize.   25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever.   26 Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air.   27 No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.


6 •  2 Peter 1:5-9

5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge;   6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;   7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.   8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.   9 But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.


7 •  Titus 2:2-8

2 Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. 3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.   4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,   5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.6 Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.   7 In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness   8 and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.


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NEXT WEEK: The next session we will learn about the Gifts of the Spirit

Gifts of the Spirit are different from the fruit of the Spirit. All Christians receive every fruit of the Spirit. However, the gifts of the Spirit are entirely different.

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